On episode # 067 Madeleine Black, a story healer, shares her story of being gang-raped as a teenager and how she could end the silence, stigma, shame and anger and finally forgive and let go of the past. Before she often disassociated and left her body. She recognized that she was a victim of a crime that left her silent for many years but has now found her voice and speaks at conferences, book events, schools. Not just for her, but for those who can’t find their voice yet.

Sharing of her story publicly on The Forgiveness Project’s website in September 2014, opened many doors for Madeleine in ways she never imagined, and the invitations started to pour in.

She´s engaged to help women, who are survivors of sexual abuse/rape and who are homeless and develop a resilience blueprint for others.

Many women and men got in contact and explained how reading her story gave them strength, hope, and a different perspective of what’s possible in their lives.

The founder of The Forgiveness Project, Marina, often refers to the various people on her website as “story healers” rather than “storytellers” and now she completely understood why.

She has taken part in both, TV and radio interviews, and has been invited to share her story of being gang-raped as a teenager at conferences, book events, schools etc.

She recognizes that she was a victim of a crime that left her silent for many years but has now found her voice and intends to use it. Not just for her, but for so many who can’t find theirs yet.

In March 2018 she won the Amazing Strength award at the No. 1 Magazine Amazing Women Awards and in October of the same year was asked to be the Patron for Say Women, a Scottish organization which offers safe accommodation and support to young women who are survivors of sexual abuse/rape and who are homeless.

She is one of 50 thrivers taking part in research by The Global Resilience Project to develop a resilience blueprint for others. She is a storyteller for The Forgiveness Project and has recently become involved with their program RESTORE, sharing her story in prisons.

As well as being an international speaker, she continues to work as a psychotherapist in Glasgow.

Her memoir, Unbroken, was published on April 4th, 2017. I highly recommend to read her book, What happened is hardcore and not easy to digest but the book is written in telling the truth happening and so authentically that I had to cry often because I just felt myself being in the situation.

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Facts / Strategy learnings:
  • Life is fragile
  • End the silence, stigma, shame, and fear by talking about the happening
  • It´s never too late to get help and share your voice to end the silence
  • Share your story – by doing so we all become experts in our life
  • Quote of a man she met: Every day may not be good, but it is good in every day
  • Bravery is contagious, if you share your voice as Madeleine did, others will follow
  • If you step up and speak your story other people can relate and identify with it
  • Speak out when things don´t feel right- show up as the authentical you
  • People who don´t share their thoughts and feelings often end up suppressing the shadow emotions and end up depressed, commit suicide or end in diseases just like she did before
  • She first was unable to speak, eat, felt minimized, emotional dysregulation, suffered from nightmares and anorexia hidden pain and trauma
  • Rape is never the shame of the victim
Tips & Tricks / Secrets:
  • Stop the mindset of worrying what others will think or say about you sharing your story, this is not your business but theirs
  • By sharing your story and speaking what we think is unspeakable, you can overcome the shame and embarrassment and find back to self-respect
  • You could also talk about the essence of yourself and what you´re here for
  • By speaking, we can release the pain and stuffed down emotions
  • It´s time to face your fears
  • Put yourself into fearful situations to challenge your fear helps often to sensitive yourself
  • Fear means: false evidence appearing real, clean up and get past it
  • In the comfort zone, which is mostly not worth the word, nothing can grow
  • The body remembers everything, help him heal by releasing the pain
Takeaways:
  • Trust your body not your mind, symptoms are like a friend telling you what´s wrong
  • Becoming authentically you is the way to stop once and for all with all the things that are not good for you
  • We can always change, it´s a choice to accept what is, to integrate it and to go on renewed
  • Emotional setbacks can still occur, but you´ll be triggered through others much less
  • Physical exercise helps to become grounded and embodied again
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